important

hey ya~
it's been days since the last time i updated my blog..
so..
i'll be update it again today..


BUT..
before i start writting, let me ask u,all the guys out there:
Who is the most importatn people for you?? (family, friend or girlfriend?)


For me, my answer would be family, friend then just will be my girlfriend.
i know when i give this answer, the girls will surely stand up and complaint about this statement.
So, let me explain one by one ok?
The reason why i put the order like this is because family is the most important to me, if i don't hav a family, there is totally won't have me!
Being a family member is forever and irreplaceable.
we cannot simply go and replace our family member.
we had bounded to the family ever since we came to this world.
myab some girls will said, now your family is important than me right?? is it i am nothing to you?? why are you being selfish to me?? and many more stupid questions.
Let me make it straight guys, will you being together with a girl that don't like you respecting and caring for your family?or totally don't like your family?
For me, if i knew that the girl is like this, i would chop a big 'REJECTED" word on her forehead before i'll getting closer with her.
The reason is simple yet still got girls that dunno this..
the reason is, girls that don't know how to respect other people can be categorized as brainless and stupid. WHY??
look at yourself girl!! you are just a girlfriend, also nt yt to be his wife, what for you critic so much on his act of caring towards his family?? somemore you are just an outsider that mean nothing to him comparing you to his family that he grew up there, learn how to walk and talk and he's been staying there since he was born.
so, don't be such a dumbass ok?!


as for my second order, which is second most important people to me is my friend.
why i put friend first instead of girlfriend?
the reason is...
in my opinion, friendship is forever and won't easily break up except for some serious problems such as betrayal, going for same girl/guy and etc.
i believe that guys and girls nowadays like to make many friends, from primary school till high school then university and at the workplace.
why need to make so much friends??
the answer is easy!! because friends can come in handy when you are in trouble, they can lend a hand whenever you need their helps.
for some people, making friends and socialize with them are very important to them as they are involved in the industry that will require them to have a large network that will makes their work become easy.
Especially for men!!
they need to earn money to feed the whole family, so they need to build their network as big as possible to let their works operate smoothly.
But there are still some simple-minded girls that don't know how to twist their mindset.
They tend to control all the movement of their boyfriend/husband and tend to stick to their boyfriend/husband as frequently as possible, so that all the time is just for them only.
This is a STUPID ACT!!
Try to think about it, if you don't allow him to go and socialize with his fren,colleagues or even customer, where will him get the resourse or income to buy gifts, bags for you or going out on a date with you or even marry with you??
when you starting to control over his outing with his friends, means that you are trying to break up his friendship and network indirectly and slowly when his friend starting to notice that, the friendship is on its way to doom~!
and whenever this happen, he will be very suffering.
when he is suffering, you also will suffer.
So, what for making him and yourself suffer in the same time?!!




i think that is all i want to say for tonight..
if tomorrow i still remember, i will ask the question to the girls too~!
and for the statement i have gave above, is only an opinion of mine..
nt to say that i want to assault the girls, because the statement i gave can goes for guys as well...
So, just leave a comment and tell me what you think...


Happy debating~! haha

月圆之夜

现在已经是半夜了。。

但是我却一点睡意都没有。。

而且，还刚刚看完 'The Tooth Fairy'。。

原本打算看完就去睡的我，却不知道为什么突然之间很想上来这里些写东西。。

好吧~开始咯。。

话说在大约两个小时前，我把我厨房里一包大垃圾拿出去。。

当我走出门口时，我只觉得房子外面很凉爽。。

我很喜欢那个感觉。。

然后我也发现到今晚好像特别的亮。。

我就试着把头抬起望向天空。。

而我也找到今晚会那么亮的源头。。

天空上挂着的，是一轮皎洁，明亮的圆月。。

看起来是多么的清澈。。

顿时之间，我忘了我所有的烦恼。。

就像个小孩子那样，目不转睛地盯着它看。。

看着看着，我就在想：如果我现在是在一个充满洁白、细幼沙子的沙滩上。。

然后就那样的躺着望着天空。。

仿佛那月亮、星星就是一幅画那样。。

慢慢的欣赏。。

那应该会是很舒服、很放松吧~~

回到我房间后。。

脑子一直都是在想着屋外天空上的月亮。。

连看戏都变得不能专心了。。

俗语说得好：月圆人团圆。。

但是对身在异乡的我来说，并没感受到所谓的团圆。。

在这么一个美好的夜里。。

留下给我的，却是孤单、冷清、寂寞~~

在白天，我也许可以是个很能玩、很吵的家伙。。

但是一到了夜晚，尤其是像今晚那样的。。

这些孤单、寂寞的感觉回来的比平时还要强烈、还要凶猛。。

想要像平时那样努力的抑制它。。

到最后却也拿自己没辙。。

只好任由这些不好的感觉在我心里放肆。。

如果换作是平时的我。。

要抑制这些感觉简直就是易如反掌。。

但是肯定今晚不能。。

也许。。

一直以来，家人与朋友，甚至是女朋友我都会把全部的重心都放在他们身上。。

而不会保留一点给我自己。。

我这样，简直就像一艘在汪洋之中漂流，而又没有一个可以靠岸的码头的小帆船。。

一直一直都在努力地寻找着一个属于自己，真正可以让我靠岸的码头。。

一个可以让我安安稳稳停靠着的码头。。

只可惜，这个码头我却还没找到，所以只好继续的漂流。。

人终究都是群居的动物。。

没有一个人希望自己是孤零零一个人的。。

终于把我脑子里一部分的文字挤出来后。。

也许头脑也会轻松些吧~~

好让我可以睡个好觉。。

哈哈~

“单身并不可怕、不辛苦，只在于你如何去看待‘单身’这个词汇罢了。”  By 凯辉

单身的朋友就高喊单身万岁吧~

而那些想结束单身的朋友，祝你好运~！（我是其中的一个。。哈哈）

晚安~~

today..is the second day i being at kampar since i back from my hometown..
since yesterday..
i was quite busy with cleaning my room lar,go school to fill up forms lar..
and now..
what i can do is just sit at my room and wait for the result of appeal for termination to be release..
yup~!
i have been terminate by UTAR..and i am appealing from termination..
and this process is very lenghty..
so i have just need to wait..

i just back at kampar for two days and i already cannot tahan with the HOT HOT HOT weather..
it's very HOT..
just finish bathing, but will be sweating a little moment later..
and i have noticed that there are quite a lot of new shops opening at kampar..
and the most significant is McDonalds..
but i think i won't go there recently..
because it's packed with lots of people..
there is always long queue at there..
and if you want to have your lunch or dinner there,please be early ok?
because you will have to wait for a long time before you can buy your food and eat..

feeling quite lonely and quiet without my two housemate whose oways at downstair..
nw just left me..
nobody to talk to..
nobody to go dinner with...
banyak kesian~

i think that's all for today..
adios~! ^^

*小男孩*

自从前几天写了那篇东西之后，朋友们都说我是不是要出书了wor~哈哈。。
是可以考虑考虑下咯。。
可能在不久的未来我会自己出一本书也不一定。。
*（痴心妄想-ing）*
哈哈~~
刚好今天有灵感，就来分享一篇简短的故事吧~

话说从前有个小男孩，自他懂事以来，总会经常性的提出他心中的疑问。
充满好奇心的他，总是不放过任何发问的机会，也不去理会发问的对象是谁。
如果不给他一个答案，他就不会罢休，会一直继续的追问知道他问出个所以然。
他所问的问题，小至这个是什么东西，大至为什么会有这种动物等等。
总之有它哉就一定会听到为什么、为什么、为什么~
从他所得到的答案，也让他慢慢的长了见识。

当人家的小男孩还在玩着汽车仔的时候，他却学会了如何用LEGO砌成了一辆汽车。
凭着他的创意，他所砌出来的汽车可说是与众不同，属于他自己本身的小汽车。
而且他也会玩着爸爸妈妈所买给他的PUZZLE，慢慢的依着那一片片小小PUZZLE的形状还有图案，然后把它们组合起来变成一张美丽的图片。
从这些玩具里，小男孩学会了什么叫耐心。
因为要把这些玩具砌好、组合好，是必须要经过多次的失败后，才能成功的。

从小，小男孩都像个睡王子那样，总是在睡觉，而且睡眠时间超长的。
如果不是妈妈把他摇起身喂他喝牛奶的话，他也不会醒过来。
听说，小孩睡的多就越聪明。
小男孩的确有那么一点点小聪明。
很多事情他都会用他的小聪明来解决。
人说小孩都是幸福的。
因为他们吃饱就睡，睡饱就吃，这样就过了一天。

当小男孩慢慢的长大以后，他的求知欲望依然是非常强烈的。
只是，此时此刻的小男孩明白了有些事情是不可以跟某些人问的。
而且他也会开始去分辨它所得到的答案到底是对的，还是错的。
但是他强烈的求知欲望就没有像一般人所期望的那样为他带来好成绩。
因为他强烈的求知欲望并不是对着学校里所学习的课本与知识，而是外面整个环境，、整个世界的知识。
所以，自从他步入了中学以后，成绩就一年比一年差。
他小学时的成绩也并非名列前茅。
但他明白，他对于他周围环境有很多疑问，根本就停不下来。
即使上了大学也还是一样。
随着他成绩越来越不好，也直接令很多人大跌眼镜与失望。
随之而来的，当然就是些很不好的评语。
朋友、亲戚、家人。
这些人所说的每一句话，就如一颗颗大石头，都把他给压得喘不过气来。
而这些压力却未曾从他身上减少过，只是在继续的增加。
当然，他也不会去轻易的向别人诉说一切。
因为他知道他将说出的一切，即使说了出来，会相信的人是少之又少。
所以他宁愿把压力都收在心里，自己默默地承受。
因此，他学会了要坚强，不会在人前让眼泪夺眶而出，反而会自己一个人躲在暗角一边舔着伤口，一边让平日难得出现的眼泪流下。
因为他明白，流过了泪，心里会舒服些。

经过了二十多年的岁月，如今的小男孩已经长大成人了。
他已不会像以前那样，时时都充满笑容，一直缠着人问东问西。
如今的他，只会一味的沉默，给人一种孤僻的感觉。
每每都是一个人单独行动，就像好像在寻找着什么似的。
也许他是在寻找着一个属于他自己的归属。
或也许，他其实是在寻找着已经觅食多年的自己~~

问题 a.k.a PROBLEMS

hihi~
干嘛凌晨四点多了我还不睡，反而来这边写东西呢？？
其实我也不是很懂。。
只知道突然很有灵感、很有感觉要写些东西。。
哈哈。。

最近，我发现到身边的朋友都开始有了稍微的变化。。
性格上、谈吐上、行为上，甚至是待人之道上。。
都起了变化。。
原因有几个。。
但是最主要的，来来去去也不过是女人还有钱。。

首先，就说说女人这一回事了。。
话说，男人们都是爱面子的单细胞动物。。
只要你把面子做给他，你要他帮你做什么，他都会心甘情愿、毫无反抗的完成。。
这。。简直就是易如反掌嘛。。
但是。。
偏偏就有这一票女生朋友，不知道要说她们不够聪明，还是不够细心。。
因为她们怎么搞，都搞不清这一样能轻易搞定男生的东西。。
弄得自己天天在那跟男友/老公吵吵闹闹的，辛苦到死。。
聪明、细心的女生就不同。。
她们懂得在外时，把面子做给男生，让男生周遭的朋友羡慕。。
这样，当她们有什么要求时，男生都一定会义不容辞的帮她们完成。。。
就举个例子吧：
试问，当妳跟妳男友和他的一斑朋友出门在外时，妳会当着众人的面拉、打、捏、摆黑脸给你男友看吗？？
答案有两个：
--会。。那就是说，妳就是要在众人面前给他难堪。。试想想，这样一来，多没面子啊？？！如此一来，他就会心又不甘，而且这口气也确实很难咽得下去。结果呢？当时就会慢慢的累积起那些不满、不甘的情绪，等到爆发的那一天，分分钟连男朋友都会没了，到时再来后悔就来不及咯~~
--不会。。这么一来，代表妳尊重妳的男友，而且也尊重他的朋友，还会让他觉得他很有面子。得到的结果，当然就是男友的千依百顺、疼爱有加。简直就是双赢的局面嘛。
当妳在外把面子做足了，回到家，任妳如何处置都没问题。

再来就是钱的问题了。。
钱的问题由两种。。
一种是花在自己的身上，另一种是花在女友身上的。。
就从花在女友身上的问题说起吧~
无可否认，两个人在一起，男生免不了花费会重了些，但是这可要见仁见智噜~
聪明的女人会把男友的钱管理的井井有条，但是并非指所有的钱都归妳所管哦~
聪明细心的女人会想着怎么替男友省钱，比如说有时候的消费不需要全部都是男生来负责，不是说对方是妳男友妳就要把付钱这回事全都交给男友来负责。有的时候，妳也可以主动帮他分担一些些。就如前面所说的，男生是爱面子的，如果妳这样做，他肯定会感动死哦~给些例子好了，就比如说去看戏好了，男生买了戏票，付了戏票钱，女生可以去买饮料，而买饮料的钱是女生自己的，这样就能帮男生分担掉少许的费用了嘛~从而让男生可以省下这些钱，把钱存起来。又或者有的时候出去吃东西时，如果吃的是比较贵的餐厅，两个人可以采取AA制，评分帐单。当吃比较普通、平价的食物时就让男生付钱，这样也能帮男生省点钱。
我相信，这世界是现实的。。
但是省归省哦~而不是叫妳帮男生省到连跟他朋友一起聚会都不让他去哦~要知道，男生有着良好的人际关系可会帮助到将来他事业的发展的哦~当你不让他跟朋友们聚会时，也代表说朋友们也会渐渐的怕麻烦而疏远他。如果将来他需要帮助时又找不到朋友的帮忙，而妳也不能怨那些朋友不好，反而应该好好检讨自己断送自己男友的前途咯~
我也相信，现在15、16、17岁的小女生已经开始很懂享受，也很懂要找个可以让她们吃好穿好的男友。这也不是什么问题，毕竟她们也还不懂大人们的辛苦之处啊~但是一旦妳踏入了18岁，你已经可以算是半个成年人了，在某些地方可能已经是成年人了。这代表什么？就是你的思想也必然的，需要成熟点了，应该学会考虑更多的东西。妳也应该开始学会去体恤男生赚钱的辛苦，而不是只去考虑他赚的钱多不多罢了。譬如说，一个女生因为学习的关系而必须住宿舍，而男友为了方便就让女生住了他离学校不远的家。但是一个人住的家，用电量竟然那么惊人，需要用到接近RM50。这数目分分钟出现在有些家庭的电单里。然后每当跟男友出街时，就买这买那，自己要用的琐碎物品也要男友来付钱，贵重的化妆品之类的也要求男友付钱买了。而且，从来没有那个意思说要付钱。这是干什么嘛？！他只是妳男友，还不是妳老公哦~18、19岁了还会有如此幼稚的想法，不觉得有点太不合年纪了吗？

所谓的花在自己身上的问题就是指男生们如何运用自己的钱财。最好的，当然就是别赌、别烟、别嫖咯~~然而还有一样就是。。。信用卡！！这张可害人不浅咯~~我不是反对说有信用卡不好，只是你要确定你有那个能力来偿还用卡刷的费用，那就没什么大不了。最怕就是自己明明就没个月工钱都是差不多刚好够用而已，就跑去申请了4、5张信用卡，而且每张都几乎刷到要爆了，才来说没多余的钱去还那些费用。最终落得破产的结局。。这不是更难看吗？？钱呢，够花就好，别去想用什么未来钱的。这样只会辛苦了自己罢了。。

女生们，试想想吧~如果真的有天世界颠倒，男女之间的角色对换，妳希望得到向上面所说的待遇吗？

问题一个一个在身边的朋友里出现，也让我在走入一段感情之前，多了一些些考虑与畏惧，也让我很想欢呼说单身万岁。但是随之而来的，当然就是孤单、寂寞咯~虽说单身有如在天空里翱翔的小鸟，但是每到冰冷的夜晚，却又异常的渴望有个人陪陪自己，谁在身边，甚至是给自己一个紧紧地拥抱。这。。就是所谓的单身的代价~~只要你肯接受这个代价，那么，你就可以对着全世界高喊；“单身万岁，万万岁！！”

for the past few years..
family and relative tend to ask me: eh, you got girlfriend or not?
friends tend to ask me: eh, you not have lots of girl's friends meh? why didn't see you 'pak tor' eh?
and frankly speaking..
i'm quite tired to keep answering the question..
to family and relative,my answer would be: no wor.
to friends,my answer would be: yup..i know quite a number of girl's friends, but really just being friend with them only..
but..
the reaction of family and friends are the same..
all also give the reaction: huh?! really or not??! you don't trick us lar~~
and hereby telling all of you..i am telling the truth!!


but come to think of it..
somesays it's better to find a girlfriend when you still studying in university or college..
y said so~their explanation is that it's harder to find a girlfriend when you start working..
no free time,OT,work that has less amount of girls,tired of going out and etc...
i think that they will says like that is based on these factors..
in my opinion,this is quite true actually..
after graduate,you will need to start working..
and you tend to strive to get a better salary or some are luckier,straight away open up a business and be the boss of his/her own.
by that time,your time would be used at your work..
and mayb you also won't have the time for your family as well..
if like that,how are you going to have the chance of knowing any girl and be in a relationship?


like what i said to my buddies recently..
"I think it's good that i'm single,because you all can find me anytime you all wanted and i won't reject the offer to go out with you all..If i'm in a relationship/have a girlfriend,you all still think that i'll still go out with you all like i used to be?? it's a bit impossible ok.."
then my buddies debate with me and said: that's mean you will be 重色轻友 la?
then let me ask you all a question..
"did you all dare to say that you all didn't do so?"
then why whenever i want to ask you all come out,you all keep giving me the excuses of :
1. girlfriend don't want to give me go out
2. girlfriend come back, need to accompany her
3. girlfriend said want go here and there, need to go with her
and yet,i am an understanding man..
so i didn't care so much about this..
but when it comes to you all,please keep this in mind..
I'm also man like you all..
so..don't tend to say that i am 重色轻友..
cz i believe in 'don't comment on others behaviours that you have'


i assumed that i am the kind of guy that will think too far beyond..
and i'll think of a lot of thing  and assumption before i started / on the way tackling girl..
i will go and think of :
1. is it i have the basic requirment to go for a girl
2. is it i able to take care of the girl
3. how am i going to care for her and love her
4. we will have future or not and many more..
i started to have the style of thinking like this after few past failures in a relationship
and i tend to be more self-protective to prevent from getting hurt again and again..
and i started to become picky..just like what i've read from an article:
"good guy usually hard to find a girlfriend,because they will think of the consequences and more tend to be responsible than the bad guy..and for the bad guy,they just think of want to play with the girl only and never ever going to be serious in a relationship,therefore,any girls that close to their taste they will just go for it and won't like the good guy that will think seriously before doing it"
and i just can say that i am neither good guy or bad guy..because i am not so good guy yet i am not so bad to be a bad guy..


deep deep inside my heart..
the desire of being in a relationship are so so so strong.
but yet, there are lots of question that i need to asnwer first before i started..
that's why it's a bit hard for me to go into a relationship than other guys..
i do hope that these questions and problem can be solved after sometimes..
just don't know when...




thx for bearing with me for so long..
because this post is kind of long actually..
but anyway,all i have to say is already written out..
so i think it's time to off to bed and sleep already..
then, i think that's all..
~goodbye and good night~ 

~PEACE ya~